Creating Your Own Life Experiences

If you see life through Lens A, you are living your life in a reactive way. This means waiting for something to happen

Lens A: I have no power to create my own life experiences. I am a victim of circumstances and other people, unable to influence or change the situations I experience in life.

Lens B: I have the power to create my own life experiences! All it takes is personal accountability and strategic action.

If you see life through Lens A, you are living your life in a reactive way. This means waiting for something to happen to you or around you, then blaming others for what happened or didn’t happen without taking any personal responsibility for the situation. This mentality includes language such as: “he made me so mad that I had to…,” or “she made me feel bad about myself,” or “I didn’t have a choice.”

If you see your life through Lens B, you are living your life in a proactive way. This means setting goals and taking action towards achieving them. It means creating opportunities, not waiting for them to come to you. It means having imagination and creativity to explore possibilities that align with your personal principles. It means taking conscious control of your life and understanding that you always have a choice. Because you do. We all do.

Here are some tips to live a proactive life:

1 Change your language. Instead of saying “if this were different, my life would be better,” or “if that person would do/would not do something, my life would be better,” say what you will change or do to meet your goals or achieve your desired results.
2 Seek support. You do not have to go through this journey, or any of life’s journeys, alone. Find someone who is aligned with your values and who is a positive influence towards your goals or desires. They’re out there-but they will not just come knocking on your front door. You must make a choice to reach out!
3 Never deny that you have choices. Choice is the greatest gift humans get in life. Not making a choice is a choice itself. And, the only person you can blame for the outcome is yourself.
Creating your own life experiences is choosing freedom and happiness. But, it’s your choice.

Attracting Positivity And Success

Be careful what you ask for. Has anyone ever told you that? Often called ‘The Law of Attraction,’ ‘speaking things into existence,

Be careful what you ask for. Has anyone ever told you that? Often called ‘The Law of Attraction,’ ‘speaking things into existence,’ Egyptian metaphysical science, Karma, or Proverbs 23:7, what you ask for refers to the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on and whatever we speak. It means if you focus on the hurtful, the failures, the anger, the hate, and the negative thoughts and emotions that surround them, you will attract more of them into your life. It also means if you focus on the delight, the wonder, the awe, the amazing, the happiness, the love, and the positive, you will attract more of that.
LIMITED THOUGHTS = LIMITED LIFE

Your mind is the most formidable power in your life. You are only limited by the boundaries of your thoughts. Other people’s thoughts are not your own unless you make them. Other people’s words are not your words unless you repeat them. You must choose to free yourself from negative situations, circumstances, thoughts and people around you to harness your own power and create the life you want.

“Words are the most inexhaustible source of magic we have.”

–JK Rowling
Expanding your thoughts and the realm of possibilities for your life can be achieved in many ways. Here are some techniques to activate positivity in your life:

  • Open your mind by reading, watching movies, meeting new people, signing up for new experiences, or learning new words;
  • Keep a journal of your negative thoughts and words and purposefully rephrase them into positive thoughts and words;
  • Take time to focus on your breathing and being in the present moment;
  • Meditate to regain focus on your thoughts and no one else’s;
  • Add physical activity to your routine;
  • Keep a gratitude journal that outweighs your worry list;
  • Say ‘yes’ more.

If it’s prosperity, happiness, love, or better health you want, choose to mindfully speak of wealth, joy, companionship, and fitness! You will find fulfillment and reward in what you want, not in what you don’t want. So, stop speaking about what you don’t want and focus on what you do want!