Creating Your Own Life Experiences

If you see life through Lens A, you are living your life in a reactive way. This means waiting for something to happen

Lens A: I have no power to create my own life experiences. I am a victim of circumstances and other people, unable to influence or change the situations I experience in life.

Lens B: I have the power to create my own life experiences! All it takes is personal accountability and strategic action.

If you see life through Lens A, you are living your life in a reactive way. This means waiting for something to happen to you or around you, then blaming others for what happened or didn’t happen without taking any personal responsibility for the situation. This mentality includes language such as: “he made me so mad that I had to…,” or “she made me feel bad about myself,” or “I didn’t have a choice.”

If you see your life through Lens B, you are living your life in a proactive way. This means setting goals and taking action towards achieving them. It means creating opportunities, not waiting for them to come to you. It means having imagination and creativity to explore possibilities that align with your personal principles. It means taking conscious control of your life and understanding that you always have a choice. Because you do. We all do.

Here are some tips to live a proactive life:

1 Change your language. Instead of saying “if this were different, my life would be better,” or “if that person would do/would not do something, my life would be better,” say what you will change or do to meet your goals or achieve your desired results.
2 Seek support. You do not have to go through this journey, or any of life’s journeys, alone. Find someone who is aligned with your values and who is a positive influence towards your goals or desires. They’re out there-but they will not just come knocking on your front door. You must make a choice to reach out!
3 Never deny that you have choices. Choice is the greatest gift humans get in life. Not making a choice is a choice itself. And, the only person you can blame for the outcome is yourself.
Creating your own life experiences is choosing freedom and happiness. But, it’s your choice.

What You Seek is Seeking You

Leaving a legacy is an important part of life’s purpose. People want to know that their lives matter in some way.

Leaving a legacy is an important part of life’s purpose. People want to know that their lives matter in some way. The legacy may not be a contribution that that changes the universe; it may be a contribution that will always be remembered by those lives you influenced and something that they can be pass forward to others. Following the wisdom of poet, scholar, and theologian Rumi, here are a few steps to leave a great legacy:

1 Whatever is in your mind, forget it. Rid yourself of worldly, pre-conceived, and social constraints set for yourself. Regularly reflect and decide what is most important in your life, then continually seek knowledge about it and improvements for it. The truths you discover will lead you to what you can most contribute and where. This process shall be repeated throughout your life as you grow and experience life, but the most meaningful purpose will always come back around.

2 Whatever is in your hand, give it. Supporting what is good and true about the lives and causes that are most important to each of us is a purpose we all share. We all have riches to share with others every day, whether it is time, money, a positive attitude, or kindness.
3 Whatever is your fate, accept it! Don’t deny yourself your true passions; doing so will deny it from others and diminish your legacy. When you live from your soul, through your passions, you will experience joy. This joy provides the energy required to serve and give to others. Your passions, and the values associated with them, will ultimately be your legacy.
A meaningful and positive legacy develops from a dedication to self-reflection and purpose. Always remember: What you seek is seeking you. -Rumi