If you’re reading this, you’re human. Humans need other humans-to function in society,
If you’re reading this, you’re human. Humans need other humans-to function in society, at work, and to have personal relationships. And, humans want other people to like them. Experts say this can be done in as little as 90 seconds with a few simple body language tricks. Interested?
Here’s a quick description of a few simple body language techniques to make people like you in 90 seconds or less:
1 Flash your eyebrows. According to Psychology Today: “The eyebrow flash is a quick up and down movement of the eyebrows. As people approach one another they eyebrow flash each other to send the message that they do not pose a threat. Since eyebrow flashes can be seen at a distance, people typically eyebrow flash as they approach others.”
2 Tilt your head. Another subtle body expression that signals you do not pose a threat is a head tilt. Psychology Today explains this is probably because tilting your head exposes the carotid artery in your neck which is the primary source of blood to your brain. Exposing this shows you are vulnerable and open.
3 But, wait until you make contact with someone to smile, says Business Insider. This shows you don’t just walk around smiling at everyone which makes your smile more meaningful to the recipient.
4 Make eye contact. Keeping eye contact with someone while you speak lets them know you think they are interesting and what they are saying is important. When you don’t make eye contact, it can indicate you’re untrustworthy or uninterested, and you don’t want that.
5 Stop fidgeting. When engaged in conversation, refrain from unnecessary movements. Experts say fidgeting is interpreted as nervousness and can also indicate you are lying. Common forms of fidgeting, according to com, include: twisting your hands; playing with your hair or clothing; tapping a pen or drumming on the table.
Make it a way of life to show each person you meet the same amount of respect with your words and with your actions. What isn’t said can have a larger influence on your relationships that was is said. As American poet Maya Angelou said:
Countless books have been written on prioritization, yet most people continue to be extremely busy spending time
Countless books have been written on prioritization, yet most people continue to be extremely busy spending time doing things that are not truly a high priority. Being busy gives us the perception that progress is being made. But, this is a false perception. Busyness and completion of the less critical can prevent you from reaching your goals.
To reach her goals, Jennifer Dulski, President and COO at Change.org, relies on “mission-based prioritization.” This business advice was provided to her by Lynn Sorensen, then a program officer at the national Breakthrough Collaborative.
To use this technique, Dulski explains, “Make a grid with your mission statement at the top (or whatever language you use to measure your primary work objective) and your “to-do” list down the side. Run through your entire to-do list, checking whether each item does or does not impact your ability to achieve your mission.”
Dulski also advises not to limit the “mission” list to the serious work. Make sure some of the fun things make the list, too, she says. By removing some of the less important work, you’ll have time for a little fun.
So, what’s your mission? Does everything on your to-do list directly impact your mission?
Effective prioritization will have you proudly announcing: Mission Accomplished.
Ah, the excitement of opening your own business. It’s one of the most powerful ways to take control of your own life.
Ah, the excitement of opening your own business. It’s one of the most powerful ways to take control of your own life. Maybe that’s why you did it. But, what happens when your business routine becomes mundane and your interest-level drops? This could mean the beginning of the end for your business.
Here are some tips to reignite the exhilaration for your business:
1 Reflect on the passion that led you to open your business in the first place. Is it still your passion? Are your company goals still aligned with your company mission? If not, re-define and/or align and hit the ground running again.
2 Expand your company’s horizons. When your company is continually evolving, it is difficult to be bored. Find a complimentary service or product that can add value to your customers and introduce it.
3 Design fun into the daily work routine. Team activities and adventures will inspire your team, who will serve customers better, and, as a result, business may increase. Positive energy will breed more positivity and produce enthusiasm.
4 Start each day with positive challenges. Ask yourself: What will I accomplish today? Make a goal, determine a purpose, and do it!
5 Examine your environment. If it has not changed since you opened your business, it may be time to mix it up! Re-arranging furniture, switching offices, or adding a fresh coat of paint can freshen your perspective.
Finally, take a step back. See how far you’ve come. Not every day can be a grand opening day. Be grateful for the experiences you’ve had-both the good and the bad. Gratitude can make it much easier to be appreciative of even the most tedious tasks and the most uneventful days.
If you see life through Lens A, you are living your life in a reactive way. This means waiting for something to happen
Lens A: I have no power to create my own life experiences. I am a victim of circumstances and other people, unable to influence or change the situations I experience in life.
Lens B: I have the power to create my own life experiences! All it takes is personal accountability and strategic action.
If you see life through Lens A, you are living your life in a reactive way. This means waiting for something to happen to you or around you, then blaming others for what happened or didn’t happen without taking any personal responsibility for the situation. This mentality includes language such as: “he made me so mad that I had to…,” or “she made me feel bad about myself,” or “I didn’t have a choice.”
If you see your life through Lens B, you are living your life in a proactive way. This means setting goals and taking action towards achieving them. It means creating opportunities, not waiting for them to come to you. It means having imagination and creativity to explore possibilities that align with your personal principles. It means taking conscious control of your life and understanding that you always have a choice. Because you do. We all do.
Here are some tips to live a proactive life:
1 Change your language. Instead of saying “if this were different, my life would be better,” or “if that person would do/would not do something, my life would be better,” say what you will change or do to meet your goals or achieve your desired results.
2 Seek support. You do not have to go through this journey, or any of life’s journeys, alone. Find someone who is aligned with your values and who is a positive influence towards your goals or desires. They’re out there-but they will not just come knocking on your front door. You must make a choice to reach out!
3 Never deny that you have choices. Choice is the greatest gift humans get in life. Not making a choice is a choice itself. And, the only person you can blame for the outcome is yourself.
Creating your own life experiences is choosing freedom and happiness. But, it’s your choice.
Be careful what you ask for. Has anyone ever told you that? Often called ‘The Law of Attraction,’ ‘speaking things into existence,
Be careful what you ask for. Has anyone ever told you that? Often called ‘The Law of Attraction,’ ‘speaking things into existence,’ Egyptian metaphysical science, Karma, or Proverbs 23:7, what you ask for refers to the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on and whatever we speak. It means if you focus on the hurtful, the failures, the anger, the hate, and the negative thoughts and emotions that surround them, you will attract more of them into your life. It also means if you focus on the delight, the wonder, the awe, the amazing, the happiness, the love, and the positive, you will attract more of that.
LIMITED THOUGHTS = LIMITED LIFE
Your mind is the most formidable power in your life. You are only limited by the boundaries of your thoughts. Other people’s thoughts are not your own unless you make them. Other people’s words are not your words unless you repeat them. You must choose to free yourself from negative situations, circumstances, thoughts and people around you to harness your own power and create the life you want.
“Words are the most inexhaustible source of magic we have.”
Expanding your thoughts and the realm of possibilities for your life can be achieved in many ways. Here are some techniques to activate positivity in your life:
- Open your mind by reading, watching movies, meeting new people, signing up for new experiences, or learning new words;
- Keep a journal of your negative thoughts and words and purposefully rephrase them into positive thoughts and words;
- Take time to focus on your breathing and being in the present moment;
- Meditate to regain focus on your thoughts and no one else’s;
- Add physical activity to your routine;
- Keep a gratitude journal that outweighs your worry list;
- Say ‘yes’ more.
If it’s prosperity, happiness, love, or better health you want, choose to mindfully speak of wealth, joy, companionship, and fitness! You will find fulfillment and reward in what you want, not in what you don’t want. So, stop speaking about what you don’t want and focus on what you do want!
Leaving a legacy is an important part of life’s purpose. People want to know that their lives matter in some way.
Leaving a legacy is an important part of life’s purpose. People want to know that their lives matter in some way. The legacy may not be a contribution that that changes the universe; it may be a contribution that will always be remembered by those lives you influenced and something that they can be pass forward to others. Following the wisdom of poet, scholar, and theologian Rumi, here are a few steps to leave a great legacy:
1 Whatever is in your mind, forget it. Rid yourself of worldly, pre-conceived, and social constraints set for yourself. Regularly reflect and decide what is most important in your life, then continually seek knowledge about it and improvements for it. The truths you discover will lead you to what you can most contribute and where. This process shall be repeated throughout your life as you grow and experience life, but the most meaningful purpose will always come back around.
2 Whatever is in your hand, give it. Supporting what is good and true about the lives and causes that are most important to each of us is a purpose we all share. We all have riches to share with others every day, whether it is time, money, a positive attitude, or kindness.
3 Whatever is your fate, accept it! Don’t deny yourself your true passions; doing so will deny it from others and diminish your legacy. When you live from your soul, through your passions, you will experience joy. This joy provides the energy required to serve and give to others. Your passions, and the values associated with them, will ultimately be your legacy.
A meaningful and positive legacy develops from a dedication to self-reflection and purpose. Always remember: What you seek is seeking you. -Rumi